RORY KELLY CONNOR: There is an ancient Chinese proverb - and some say curse - that states, “May you live in interesting times.” Many would concur that we are now, no matter where you live on the planet, living in very interesting times. Economically, socially, culturally, technologically, spiritually, and morally, we are all living in very interesting times that are challenging what we have been taught, what we believe, what works and what no longer works – at all levels.
No longer are citizens simply accepting the status quo. No longer are women standing powerlessly by allowing discrimination, objectification, subjugation and denigration. And with the incredible transparency offered by the iternet, as well as the growing global discourse on social networks, no longer are individuals blindly standing by beliefs and ideas that feel untrue, that were taught to them as children by parents, society, religion and leadership.
Waking Up to Worthiness
The 'sleeping giant'– otherwise known as the collective unconscious - is awakening. We are asking questions. And the answers are no longer palatable or make sense. Inherent in our questioning, our need for answers, our trust in our newly emerging conscious selves, is a core belief that we are worthy. After all, when we are conscious, we are aware that who we are matters. This not only has meaning, it has value. And if we have value, we are 'worth' something. Something wonderful.
In America, where I am based, we are also living in interesting times. We are questioning who we are and where we are going. As an American, I am very proud of our journey, most especially the great thinking and foresight of the men who strategically planned the principles upon which the United States of America were built upon, reflected in The Declaration of Independence.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their creator with certain inalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.”
Basically, this brilliant statement is core to what we hold most dear then and now – freedom. For everyone. And boiled down to its simplest form, this statement says, “You are worthy.” Every one of you. Oh, and by the way, the fact that you are worthy is an inalienable right. So, you deserve to be here (life), you deserve to be free (simply for being alive), and please feel completely free to pursue your dreams because you deserve to be successful and happy! And we hold this to be a self-evident truth! What a fantastic principle upon which to build a country! You are worthy! Total truth!
Where Did You Get That Idea?
In my work with coaching clients, I have repeatedly seen the core conviction of not being worthy surface as a significant obstacle. “I am not worthy…I don’t deserve…forgiveness, happiness, love, success, abundance, joy, prosperity, freedom to choose my path…I am not worthy.”
So, obviously I have been wondering why or how it comes to pass that so many people believe, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that they are not worthy. I am wondering how we come to believe that we do not deserve happiness, freedom and equality with all other humans who live or have ever lived. Where do we get this idea from? Who teaches us this? Who reinforces this belief day after day?
Then, one hot summer day, I was killing time in the city while my son attended theatre camp and wandered into a nearby and sweetly air-conditioned Roman Catholic church. Raised Catholic, I have always had a deep love for ornate Catholic churches. (After all, church is where I first met God…but that’s another story.) I took a seat and simply soaked up the peaceful atmosphere and beautiful interior. As the noon hour passed, about forty people had joined me in the church. Much to my surprise, Mass suddenly began, apparently a daily occurrence to accommodate the business commuters over lunch hour.
Sitting in the back, quietly listening and observing, the words and rituals as familiar to me as my own name, a phrase I had said thousands of times was spoken once again by all. “Lord, I am not worthy to receive You, but only say the word and I shall be healed.” And for the first time I recognized, with my coach’s heart, the lie. “Lord, I am not worthy…”This is not true.
The Truth Will Set You Free
This is just one example. An example from my own life. Words I said repeatedly in spiritual communion with my Creator. A belief born in an environment sanctioned by my parents and positioned as the truth. And welcomed by me as the Word of God, starting when I was a child and pronounced well into my adulthood. I never had a chance.
As noted, this is just one example. Yet, there are many other examples from other religions, cultural practices and societal rituals celebrated and taught around the world. If you do this, you are not worthy. If you don’t do what I want, you are not worthy. If you are born into that group, you are not worthy. Masked in dogma or tradition, these teachings are not true.
How do I know this? Because the truth would set you free. It would never hold you captive, deny you your dreams, or belittle you. It would not manipulate or control you. It would not teach a child that he is not worthy. It would never teach a child that she is not good enough. The truth would always align with Light. And these teachings are aligned with darkness. No healthy person welcomes them.
You Are Worthy
As we awaken to consciousness, we inherently know this is true. As the planet breaks open in transparency, and the Light of consciousness finally begins to shine all over the world, more and more people are questioning any belief that tells them that they are not worthy. And they are teaching their children that they are worthy. Just because. It’s called unconditional love.
Being conscious requires that we both walk our talk and be our truth. It reminds us that we have and always will have the power to create our world, make new rules, and choose what is healthy, self-loving and actually works for us. So, I have changed the words to what I know to be truth and feels incredibly loving. “Lord, I am worthy to receive You, and in saying that word, I am healed!” Tell me - how does saying that feel?
For the record, you are extraordinarily worthy. You are a magnificent manifestation of creation endowed with many gifts and an infinite ability to love and be loved. You are extremely valuable. You are worthy. This is truth. It is your inalienable right to be so. Take a look at yourself. Can you see? It’s self-evident.